My ultimate dance therapy

My ultimate dance therapy

by Sandra Izevbuwa ♥ 3 Comments

Shake your sorrows out.

Nothing is going right. That was how I felt. I was weak, broken, torn apart. I thought I would faint, the stress of college was really affecting me I had assignments to do, practical reports to finish, textbooks to read and I was feeling so sleepy. Fear began to creep in slowly, I won’t make it, I’m a failure, I will disappoint everyone, what will my parents say, what if I don’t pass, these and more ran through my mind.

With all these thoughts I began to fear for my mental health, I don’t wanna go crazy, I don’t wanna fall into depression. ‘Lord, please help me’, I cried, ‘there is no one I can talk to, no one understands me’.

Right at that moment my phone rang, I wasn’t in the mood to talk to anyone at the time so the phone rang on and the music filled my very tiny room.

Tap tap tap, my feet began to move to the beat of Be my man by Asa, well since I didn’t know what to do I just got up and danced singing totally off tune with Asa. As I started to dance I felt nothing, yes I suddenly felt lighter. It felt like I was dancing through a portal of memories I felt like I could see everything like I was opening the pages of my life seeing it all, feeling it all. No, the feeling was not that foreign I had tried a different form of therapy before – running – but it didn’t work out, this felt different I felt myself letting go of my regrets, my desire to change the past, my desire to know the future and I could clearly hear my inner self speaking, telling me

“The past is called the past for a reason, it’s gone nothing can be done, focus on the present, live for today, expect tomorrow. It’s okay to be scared, it’s fine to worry, just know everything is going to be alright. You are not a failure you only become a failure when you quit so strive on and work hard everything will fall into place. Why do you want to know what the future holds? What fun will it be if we knew how tomorrow will be, there will be no fun in that and remember life is an adventure a risk worth taking.”.

Who knew I could get that much from just dancing, mind you I’m a terrible dancer. That one thing changed my view of life forever I hope it will change yours too.

From that day onward, dance became my therapy, music my therapist, and the beat my best companion.

Signed Sandra izevbuwa.

A letter to that insecure woman

A letter to that insecure woman

by Sandra Izevbuwa ♥ 2 Comments

Your feminism is your pride.

Dear insecure woman,

I wanted to reach out sooner to you there but you raised your walls and blocked me out, I called to you, I screamed your name but to no avail. I called your cell phone and left you messages but you ignored it all, this letter is the final straw read carefully.

You’ve been called fat, thin, lean, slim, plus size, thick, anoxeric but most of all weak. This has left you troubled, sad and discouraged, you wake up each morning and step up the scale you cry when you notice you’ve gained weight and jump for joy when you notice a decrease. When will all these stop?

You go to the kitchen and make yourself a meal which even a naked, homeless, hungry man will reject all in the name of dieting. Why? To fit into society’s definition of beauty. In doing this, you fail to realize how unique you are. When will all these stop?

You go out everyday to a day job you despise and loathe but you go all the same. Why? Because you want to appear strong and independent, wanting to prove you are equal to man and above your fellow women. In doing this, you fail to realize that you were not made equal to him but to complement him and be his other half knowing one cannot function without the other. When will all these stop?

You cover up yourself in potato sacks and very unattractive clothes. Why? Because you are insecure about how you look, you look into the mirror and feel ugly, you worry about your blemishes and hide behind thousands of layers of paint just to feel beautiful. In doing this, you fail to realize that you were fearfully and wonderfully made, that He who made you designed you to utmost perfection, that there is someone else out there who envies your beauty and wishes she was you. When will all these stop?

Listen to me, I do not wish to sweet talk you but I had no choice. Your miserable actions vexes me. You are strong, bold, beautiful, unique, porfect, an epitome of beauty and knowledge.

Who else can be strong and soft at the same time? Only you.

Who else can be shy and also upfront? Only you.

Who else defends what she stands for? Only you.

So get your lazy ass off that couch and shine cos you were made to shine. If any one tells you otherwise give them the middle finger.

Yours in-truth,

your inner self.

But still,

The pear shaped woman

The pear shaped woman

by Sandra Izevbuwa ♥ 0 Leave a Comment

You are just very juicy.

A pear, smaller at the top and munkier at the bottom. Just like me and some other ladies out there we share some wonderful characteristics with this unique fruit.

As a pear shape we tend to have a little extra extra at the bottom – if you know what I mean. Example of pear shaped women are Kim kardashian, Jennifer Lopez and yours truly.

Features of a pear shaped woman

You might have noticed that the pear shaped body has some specific features, well that’s what we want to discuss right now.

. Small boobs

Majority of pear shaped women tend to have smaller boobs, yes, well if you fall under this category. welcome to the itty bitty titty community – you are now an official member.

. Considerable small waist

A small waist also characterises your unique body shape. It is noticeably 3-4 inches smaller than your boobs and hips. This is an example of a typical pear shape body measurement, 35inches-31inches-41inches. (These measurements are mine).

. Large hips

Yep, you saw that right, large hips are one of your most important features, your hips are wider or almost wider than your shoulders.

Cons of having pear shaped body

One of the disadvantages I’ve noticed over the years of being pear shaped is

One, I never find my correct jeans size. It’s so frustrating either the waist doesn’t fit or it’s the thighs or the length, sometimes the three. So this leaves me wearing jeggings and leggings most of the time.

Two, sometimes I just look out of proportion because of my spoon-like shape, I just always seem like a walking triangle.

Three, you’re at a danger of stretch marks on the hips since majority of the weight gain is directed to the lower part of our body, the hips are in danger of the invaders called stretch marks.

Pros of having a pear shaped body

Even though this wonder shape might have some not so good qualities, there are a few benefits of being pear shaped.

Research has shown that a pear shaped woman is at lower risk of having an heart attack or getting diabetes in the future – did I hear a cheers?

Also, you get large hips and thighs to flaunt. (If you’re into that kind of thing).

Wardrobe essentials for a pear shaped woman

Over the years, I have discovered the kinds of clothing that works for my body shape and it’s helped me a lot. Okay, let’s get to it

1. Push up bras. These babies are life savers.

2. A pair of High waisted jeans/jeggings/leggings.

You can never go wrong with a pair of jeans.

3. A large waist belt. To accentuate that eye-catching waistline.

4. A blazer. They add bulk to your upper body.

5. A blouse that falls on the widest part of your hips.

6. One or two oversize shirts.

7. A sundress nipped at the waist.

8. Embellished tops.

9. A-line skirts.

10. A leather jacket.

But still

Crash dieting? Stop it.

Crash dieting? Stop it.

by Sandra Izevbuwa ♥ 9 Comments

Dieting is a very common trend among the young and old of this generation with the intent of fitting into the society’s definition of “beauty”.

What is dieting?

Dieting as been defined as the managing consumption of food and drink with the intent to lose, gain or maintain weight or to prevent and treat diseases such as diabetes.

What is crash dieting?

According to Merriam Webster dictionary, crash dieting is a diet intended to help a person loose a large amount of weight in a short period of time typically by reducing the amount of food consumed to minimal levels.

Some mountain climbers or dancers usually do a crash diet before their ascent on gig.

Why you should stop crash dieting?

Sure crash dieting works but only for a short time. I used to crash diet in high school when I felt I had gained weight and I didn’t want anyone to notice it didn’t always end that well.

Now let’s get into why you should stop crash dieting

1. It isn’t long term

Crash dieting can’t be maintained, it’s something you do for a short time, so that perfect body you might have gotten for a day at the beach with your friends might not last long, you might as well say good bye now.

2. You end up gaining the weight you lost

This is like a continuation of reason number 1, so even after losing weight when you return to your normal routine there’s a high probability of gaining your lost weight or more.

3. It leaves you weak

Because you have to eat minimal food and take in less calories than your body deserves, your metabolism slows down and you tend to feel weak and tired during the day.

4. You might get sick

During one of my crash diets back in the day, I got so sick that I had to be hospitalized the doctor said I almost got ulcer but thankfully I narrowly escaped it. Most people are not that lucky and some cases have led to death.

5. It lowers your self esteem

After the weight loss series, you might start to feel wonderful about yourself but that wonderful surge of confidence runs dry when you regain weight which makes you feel shitty about yourself all over again.

But still